The following first few days

At first, everything may seem unreal, as if the outside world was far away.

Different people may react very differently. Some will be able to continue their everyday activities - that is normal and does not mean that the pain has faded away - whereas other people will feel the need to be left alone or with only a few people.

What people may feel

Very strong thoughts and emotions may surface:

• Why did it happen?
• Could I have done anything?
• Why did he/she not talk to me?

These questions are often accompanied by guilt, anger, a feeling of helplessness, despair - and sometimes, paradoxically, a sense of relief.

All these reactions are understandable.

The process of mourning

Mourning is a personal experience, which depends on the nature of your relationship with the dead person, personal experiences, culture and the circumstances of the death.

People in mourning often go through highs and lows. It is a natural way to move on despite your loss. A wound may leave a scar, and that is part of the process you have to go through.

How is it possible to cope with everyday life?

• Talk about your emotions and accept help from your nearest and dearest.
• Show your feelings: cry, shout, write, complain if necessary.
• Allow yourself opportunities to seek comfort (walks, meetings, creative activities).
• If you wish, create a memorial ritual or site (photo, message, place).

Seek professional help

Consult a professional [+ info] if you observe:

• that your zest for life is not returning;
• that life seems meaningless;
• an overwhelming sense of guilt which does not fade away;
• a feeling of discomfort or symptoms (difficulty in sleeping, isolation, excessive consumption of alcohol or medicines) that worry you;
• a lack of comfort from people around you.